Monday, June 22, 2009

would you rather...?

ever played that game "would you rather"? though it can be a humorous get-to-know-you game i most often find myself frustrated with the questions. would i rather eat maggot-infested meat or moldy mac and cheese for the rest of my life? hmm... tough choice. or, would i rather trade two of my senses for a superpower sixth sense or continue living life with the usual five? i really don't know.

what i do know is why i get frustrated.
these questions bother me because in the end they are utterly pointless.
nothing is wrong with having fun with others, but i find myself wondering when depth and authenticity were replaced by... maggots and superpowers.

the questions we ask and the time we spend with others often serve the purpose of entertainment but do very little for the soul and spirit. maybe in all the fun and silliness (which i definitely think we need at times; we are fun people!) we are shortchanging our relationships.

i wonder what it would be like if we challenged each other with questions like this:

would you rather live in hope of something excellent that is improbable,
or live in assurance of average things you know can happen?

would you rather love someone passionately and lose them,
or keep yourself first so it's easier to pick up the pieces?

would you rather fail attempting a great feat,
or stick to the realm of the known?

would you rather believe for a miracle,
or unquestioningly accept a diagnosis?

would you rather live your life,
or just let it happen?

friends, would you rather cultivate authentic relationships with those who love you enough to confront and challenge you; or would you prefer acquaintance "friendships" based on recreation and fun?

would you dare risk your pride for accountability, or would you rather share only what information makes you look better?

would you rather be the friend who asks the hard questions, or one who settles for knowing favorite colors and hobbies?

would you rather trust another and be let down, or live life alone?

i think i'd rather try authenticity again...

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

June 1-3

day one...

highlights: visiting LAURA!, touching lake michigan for the first time, going to chicago for approximately 2.5 hours before getting bored and heading home, driving for an hour looking for an open blockbuster video. visiting koolsville, but leaving before they could mutilate my body.

lesson learned:
trash bags are versatile devices. they can be used to protect clothing and hair from moisture in the event of a downpour. fyi, chipotle is very generous to give free trash bags to customers who are brave enough to ask. enter laura, the courageous one.

day two...

highlights: long-awaited trip to dunkin donuts. getting 32 mpg at one point in the trip. visiting ihop in kc and enjoying some time there. finally holding my nephew for more than a few minutes! he's cute.

new likes: imogen heap (thank you joseph!). driving below the speed limit. not being rushed.

day three...

well it is not nearly over yet...

highlights: sleeping in. melissa. london. washing all my dirty laundry (lots and lots... it was out of hand)! watching the american idol season finale with my sister while holding my sleeping nephew.

fun fact: my brother in law just got home from work!!! i snapped a few pictures on my phone of london laying on my knees:) he has a faux-hawk, because he is cool. in the third pic i think he's trying to tell everyone he is "west side".